Letting go is a gradual process involving many steps. One does not simply wake up one morning and say “today I let go”.
First one has to rid themselves of the denial. This happens has the victims struggle to make of sense of things that don’t make sense to caring, giving people.
The victim then finds resources like this page and devour every piece of education that they can. This leads to a marinating time. It must all sink in. Once the period of cognitive dissonance is over, there is the venting and purging stage. Once again, this is where support pages such as this comes into play. The victim is in need of support and validation.
The victim then finds comfort in helping, propping up and supporting those who may have stumbled in their process.
Every step along the way the Narc intuitively knows each step is leading you further away from their control. He knows you have moved past begging for scraps at his table to, “fuck you, I don’t need shit from you”. So in an effort to continue taking up space in your head, the narc feels the need to convince you that you’re not “moving on”. They understand the fact that you are leaving them behind and disappearing on the horizon. After all, for the narcissists living in the land of cognitive dissonance makes life a lot more comfortable. Don’t fall for their lies. You are moving forward without them.